Helping Others

In life there are givers and there are takers. And in some cases, there are those who can balance both. We can easily see the people in our lives who we define as takers. Those who only perform if they are getting something in return. We can clearly identify those who are extremely selfish with their time and resources. They may appear to be successful but make no mistake, takers are toxic. No one wants to be defined as a taker and they may honestly feel as though the little they do give is quantifiable.

On the other hand, givers often don't put themselves first, but they tend to be the most successful. They also tend to be happier. What elevates givers successes is their ability to time-block opportunities to help others. They set an intention to meet people where they are at, and they use their natural skills to offer help. Beware, it's easy for givers to be guilt-tripped into giving. So, setting boundaries is critical for your well being.

So here's the thing, the more you give, the more the takers become suspicious of your motives. If someone is not of the same giving mindset and only gives in order to receive something in return, they will question your motives. Just know that their suspicion is revealing of their character flaws. They have a lot to learn from you. 

 Exercise:
Talk less and ask more questions.
Learn more about others and how you can give by helping them solve problems or provide some mentorship.

Journal: 
What ways of giving in the past inspired me?
How can I pay attention to other's needs?
Am I working too hard to please other people?

 Invisible giving always feels better. 

From the sweetest spot in my heart to yours, may you rise by lifting others.
Audrey xo

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