Tears
Everyone goes through times when the bad exceeds the good in our life. Everyone experiences brief moments of anguish. Or maybe everything seems to go very wrong very quickly, and doom and gloom overshadow our ability to be positive. I'm not talking about depression; I'm talking about situational sadness. We may feel justified for throwing the pity party of the century.
One bad day does give us room to process and deal with our feelings and reality. You are allowed to cry, scream, and pout in privacy. Tears are a natural process. This doesn't change your circumstances, but it does placate the soul. When you give yourself permission to cry, you are processing and physically releasing negativity. Just don't stay there because the negative thoughts are not helpful. Negative thoughts underscore your resentment and despair. This does nothing to change your circumstances.
In terms of crying, society places this unrealistic burden of guilt, shame, and judgment. It is vital not to pretend everything is alright when it obviously is not. Denying the thoughts and feelings will not make you feel better and will not change your circumstances. When we don't allow tears, we don't acknowledge that tears are the echo of the soul. There is much beauty when we tend to our soul.
So here's the thing, if you're not releasing negative emotions, then you're holding onto them. Having a mini-pity party with a short guest list is alright. You can make a bad day worse if you don't keep it short and contrive a lesson from that experience.
Exercise:
Acknowledge the event and your feelings.
Cry, scream, pout for a short time.
Write about your feelings.
Talk to a friend.
Decide you are not going to be a victim.
Find the good things in your life, and be grateful for them.
Drink water and go for a walk.
Journal:
List the times have you cried over physical pain.
List the times have you cried due to emotional trauma.
Which experience has affected you most in life?
Tears come from the heart not the brain. It's evidence of an open heart.
One bad day does give us room to process and deal with our feelings and reality. You are allowed to cry, scream, and pout in privacy. Tears are a natural process. This doesn't change your circumstances, but it does placate the soul. When you give yourself permission to cry, you are processing and physically releasing negativity. Just don't stay there because the negative thoughts are not helpful. Negative thoughts underscore your resentment and despair. This does nothing to change your circumstances.
In terms of crying, society places this unrealistic burden of guilt, shame, and judgment. It is vital not to pretend everything is alright when it obviously is not. Denying the thoughts and feelings will not make you feel better and will not change your circumstances. When we don't allow tears, we don't acknowledge that tears are the echo of the soul. There is much beauty when we tend to our soul.
So here's the thing, if you're not releasing negative emotions, then you're holding onto them. Having a mini-pity party with a short guest list is alright. You can make a bad day worse if you don't keep it short and contrive a lesson from that experience.
Exercise:
Acknowledge the event and your feelings.
Cry, scream, pout for a short time.
Write about your feelings.
Talk to a friend.
Decide you are not going to be a victim.
Find the good things in your life, and be grateful for them.
Drink water and go for a walk.
Journal:
List the times have you cried over physical pain.
List the times have you cried due to emotional trauma.
Which experience has affected you most in life?
Tears come from the heart not the brain. It's evidence of an open heart.
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