Choices

Wherever we are in life is temporary. We are in a constant flow of choice and change.  Positive change cannot happen with a negative mindset. Letting the past maintain its grip is immobilizing. Of course, we all have made bad choices. So, learn from them so that they define and fuel your future choices not your present state.

We naturally evaluate risk vs reward, and we can say "Yes" or "No" to certain opportunities, or we can stand still throughout the chaos. Either choice triggers the next series of events. The bigger the decision and the more choices, the more impaired the decision-making process becomes. It seems intimidating and only becomes manageable when we gain more courage and confidence to accept where we are and then to take bold action.

Here's the thing, when we are present in the moment we find meaning, even in the bad stuff. Life’s about being at peace with your past, your present, and your future. It is about being content with the choices that define who you are and what you represent and how your choices impact others.

Exercise: When you are faced with a decision, ask yourself:
What choices align with my goals?
What choices are congruent with my values?
What is my intuition telling me?
Ask a confidante for an objective perspective.
Maybe just throw out a wild card. We all have them.

Be reflective:
Looking back one year from now, what is the choice you need to make today?

Choice is the purest form of free will. No one can choose for me unless I let them.

From the sweetest spot in my heart to yours, know that your choices do matter.
Audrey xo

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