Flexibility



Being able to “go with the flow” and be flexible in our reasoning fundamentally supports life’s inevitable changes making us able to adapt to different situations. It is something that can help things run smoothly. Flexibility acclimates us to new impetus circumstances, challenges and situations as they arise. It is so much easier to adopt an easy-going schedule that benefits us personally than to put other’s first.

Consider what you can do to make other people’s lives less complicated. It might be something as simple as changing an appointment to better suit the needs of someone else or scheduling a time to meet with someone who needs your advice. Finding some way to cooperate and negotiate with other people frees us from our mundane routines. Allow the unexpected to occur without resistance.

Integrating the needs and desires of others into our lives helps us keep our daily routines engaging. When we are willing to interrupt our plans, it not only shows our interest in other people but also gives us the chance to be more open. When we create space and put others first, we will realize that being socially centered relies on the ability to adapt to changing situations. On a larger scale, by being accommodating, we create growth and new experiences, relationships, and insights in our lives as a whole.

There is often an assertive intensity to force things to happen in a certain manner. Aggressive control arises when we are trying to force something to happen the way we see fit. Release your attachment, your desire to control, and your expectations. Keep your interactions relaxed and do not force your agenda. Embrace the natural flow and let things come to you. By doing so the hostile feelings will be replaced with confidence and a more optimistic outlook.

Exercise
Observe your own inflexible behavior this week.
Record situations where you frequently try to steer the ship.
Take notice of those situations where you stand back and let others take the lead.

Where you could opt to be less rigid?
Could you for one month just say “yes” to everything?
What would be the worse thing that would happen?

My Life's Lesson:  By relinquishing control and saying "yes", I gave up control. I became vulnerable and learned about my untapped potential, and found new shared interests and a stronger bond with family and friends. 

From the sweetest spot in my heart to yours, may your week be filled with unexpected adventure!
~Audrey  

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